I remember Delphine

I remember Delphine Delphine is my inspiration to a lot of things I do in life. I am continuing my education, following my dream as a writer, and traveling the world. Every time I step into a new city for the first time I get emotional because I constantly repeat mama I am doing it. I am doing this! You see Delphine is my mama. Some people tend to say she was my mother because she has died but what makes you think she is no longer your mother by saying she was. So I blatantly say she is my mother. She is dead and gone but not forgotten. I was looking at her obituary today. She died September 25, 2006. I was twenty years old. Fresh out of high school. You see I was a mother of a three year old and my husband was in Iraq. I remember the day she died like it was yesterday. The tears that stung my eyes, the many family members staring me down because every decision I made wasn’t to their liking. My mother had a saying “DO IT GOD”. I quote that today for her since she isn’t here to say it. I am so much like her. Loud, boyish, visionary, determined, and a lover of words. I hate that as I grow older I can’t have that relationship with her. But I also know that if I choose to do good in life I can not only see her when I pass over but I can make her proud in the process. You see everything I do reflects who she was when she was here. So I do not want to embarrass her or make people feel ashamed. So I put my fingers to these key boards and I write. I write all sorts of things such as gospel, romance, erotica, contemporary, and drama. Because that is me. I am all the above. This Saturday I release my second book The Ultimate Moment No Regrets on my mother’s birthday September 5th. In honor of her, in honor of her legacy I continue to try to please her. So I remember you mama. I think of all the what if’s everyday. But I do know this if not anything else. I am doing it mama; I am doing it for OUR legacy. Mika

Tribute to E. Lynn Harris

I want to say to the E Lynn Harris Family that I am so sadden by his sudden departure. But I know that nothing is done by a mistake and I am so happy to see a man return home to where we all wish to go. I only pray that his soul was as rest as he set his way home. I have a few dealings with a lost of a love one in 2002 I lost three close relatives in 6 months apart. One around my sister’s birthday, one around my birthday, and one when I had my daughter. That year was hell. Then two years later I lose my brother, and then two years later I lose my mother. At some point you start to look around and say okay lord who is next. But I try to not live life like that because I also know that one day I will die. Although we choose to not dwell on that because it is sad to us, we all know it is true. So when E Lynn passed, I felt my heart wrench. As well as when Michael Jackson died. But know this. God id good. Know that we should be jealous because they have mo more worries. We got to worry about eating, sleeping, working, and all this other mess. But they are at peace.

 

Let’s come together and say a prayer for E Lynn’s family and Michael Jackson’s family as well come together to reflect a awesome life.

Haters Vs. Players

So I am about to come off of my ten day summer tour in D.C., Maryland area and I had a ball. I met hundreds of people, and connected with so many who are in the industry that I am overwhelmed. I am ready to go back to Texas and set up my next agenda. I wanted to take this time and talk about the haters vs. players. I title myself a player mainly because I am a go getta. I aim for the best and I shoot for it. How ever there are always haters. I imagine that without any haters there will be less motivation. So let me tell you from my point of view. The industry can be a tuffy if you make it. Try not to get locked into these so called clicks. That is soooooooooo high school. Does it look like I care what others in my position have to say. I simply say I am Tamika no higher no different. So why do I not cater to what others think. Because  I don’t have to. I write for my fans. That is YOU! Although I have met so many who call them selves Christan’s, or a friend, or trustworthy, PLEASE yeah right. Those are the first ones to talk about you. So in my advice those who tend to hate please continue to do so because the Lord is blessing and as long as he allows me to breathe I will cater to him and not to YOU!!

So ask your self this is any one hating on you? If not them sweet heart you are the hater. Work on your self and stop worrying about what every body else is doing because straight to the point. No one cares about your clicks, and your so called friendship. Stop being fake and please start to empower your self.

 

Live life ya’ll and until next time. Smooches

When is it considered okay to date your friends ex?

 

You have heard the saying that your friends ex is off limits. But are they always going to be off limits. This is what some women hate to see is to find their friend on the arm of the man they use to love. But on the other hand some guys may not care for their friend to start dating their ex. So I ask when it is okay for someone to date their friends ex?

 

Is there a time limit?

Should it never be considered?

Should you ask your friend first?

Should you do it and just hide it from your friend?

 

Is it true to say that even if your friend says they don’t care about you dating their ex that they should still do it? Couldn’t it still get a little sticky?

 

I want to know your thoughts

When is it going to far to gain revenge?

In the Ultimate NO NO five characters tells their story on the journey they went through when a woman decided to take actions into her own hands and get revenge  back on a man who broke her heart.

 

When is it considered a good idea to get revenge on someone you use to be in love with? I personally don’t see any good in revenge. It may feel good at the moment but as you read The Ultimate NO NO you will see what will happen if and when you take on this task. When you think about revenge all of these things take place

 

Heart ache

Confusion

Lies

Deceit

Worry

Misunderstood

Disliked

Lost of friendships

Lost of trust

 

Is it totally worth it to take revenge no a man or a woman? I want to know what you think