I remember Delphine

I remember Delphine Delphine is my inspiration to a lot of things I do in life. I am continuing my education, following my dream as a writer, and traveling the world. Every time I step into a new city for the first time I get emotional because I constantly repeat mama I am doing it. I am doing this! You see Delphine is my mama. Some people tend to say she was my mother because she has died but what makes you think she is no longer your mother by saying she was. So I blatantly say she is my mother. She is dead and gone but not forgotten. I was looking at her obituary today. She died September 25, 2006. I was twenty years old. Fresh out of high school. You see I was a mother of a three year old and my husband was in Iraq. I remember the day she died like it was yesterday. The tears that stung my eyes, the many family members staring me down because every decision I made wasn’t to their liking. My mother had a saying “DO IT GOD”. I quote that today for her since she isn’t here to say it. I am so much like her. Loud, boyish, visionary, determined, and a lover of words. I hate that as I grow older I can’t have that relationship with her. But I also know that if I choose to do good in life I can not only see her when I pass over but I can make her proud in the process. You see everything I do reflects who she was when she was here. So I do not want to embarrass her or make people feel ashamed. So I put my fingers to these key boards and I write. I write all sorts of things such as gospel, romance, erotica, contemporary, and drama. Because that is me. I am all the above. This Saturday I release my second book The Ultimate Moment No Regrets on my mother’s birthday September 5th. In honor of her, in honor of her legacy I continue to try to please her. So I remember you mama. I think of all the what if’s everyday. But I do know this if not anything else. I am doing it mama; I am doing it for OUR legacy. Mika

Tribute to E. Lynn Harris

I want to say to the E Lynn Harris Family that I am so sadden by his sudden departure. But I know that nothing is done by a mistake and I am so happy to see a man return home to where we all wish to go. I only pray that his soul was as rest as he set his way home. I have a few dealings with a lost of a love one in 2002 I lost three close relatives in 6 months apart. One around my sister’s birthday, one around my birthday, and one when I had my daughter. That year was hell. Then two years later I lose my brother, and then two years later I lose my mother. At some point you start to look around and say okay lord who is next. But I try to not live life like that because I also know that one day I will die. Although we choose to not dwell on that because it is sad to us, we all know it is true. So when E Lynn passed, I felt my heart wrench. As well as when Michael Jackson died. But know this. God id good. Know that we should be jealous because they have mo more worries. We got to worry about eating, sleeping, working, and all this other mess. But they are at peace.

 

Let’s come together and say a prayer for E Lynn’s family and Michael Jackson’s family as well come together to reflect a awesome life.

Haters Vs. Players

So I am about to come off of my ten day summer tour in D.C., Maryland area and I had a ball. I met hundreds of people, and connected with so many who are in the industry that I am overwhelmed. I am ready to go back to Texas and set up my next agenda. I wanted to take this time and talk about the haters vs. players. I title myself a player mainly because I am a go getta. I aim for the best and I shoot for it. How ever there are always haters. I imagine that without any haters there will be less motivation. So let me tell you from my point of view. The industry can be a tuffy if you make it. Try not to get locked into these so called clicks. That is soooooooooo high school. Does it look like I care what others in my position have to say. I simply say I am Tamika no higher no different. So why do I not cater to what others think. Because  I don’t have to. I write for my fans. That is YOU! Although I have met so many who call them selves Christan’s, or a friend, or trustworthy, PLEASE yeah right. Those are the first ones to talk about you. So in my advice those who tend to hate please continue to do so because the Lord is blessing and as long as he allows me to breathe I will cater to him and not to YOU!!

So ask your self this is any one hating on you? If not them sweet heart you are the hater. Work on your self and stop worrying about what every body else is doing because straight to the point. No one cares about your clicks, and your so called friendship. Stop being fake and please start to empower your self.

 

Live life ya’ll and until next time. Smooches

Who’s loving who?

Imagine meeting someone who is everything you need, and imagine loving only him. But there is a stumbling block. What happens to this relationship when it seems that you are torn between two people who fulfill you in two different ways?

 

In my sequel The Ultimate Moment No Regrets, Nitrah returns and undoubtedly fell in love with two men. But can you blame her situation. One leaves and then one returns but at the end of the day they both came back at the same time. You can’t blame a woman for trying to move on when she felt it was best. But how can she turn off one love to cater to her first love?

 

Give me some advice that could help mold this thrilling sequel…………

His Best Friend

His Best Friend

 

The sequel is about to debut in a few months and for those who are apart of the Fan Club or if you’re a book club you hosted my novel as the book of the month then you will be able to read the novel in the Summer of 2009.

 

I will like to discuss the topic of dating your ex’s friends. The characters in The Ultimate NO NO return and some are still double dipping. Even though most characters have matured over time and have decided what they want in life some still struggle with love.

 

So when is it okay to date your ex’s friend? I want to know some of your opinions on this matter and how can one avoid being the one who over steps their bounds.

The Ultimate NO NO is declared a Best Seller

I head to Dallas for a book signing at Jokaes African American Book Store and a book club sponsored event and the weekend would end differently. I was surprised with how many people came to see me and who actually had copies already and knew of me. I must say I have to get us to that.

I am excited that people have started to know me and that hard work is paying off. I was also interviewed by a local reporter and photographer during my book signing event which magically brought in a larger crowd curious to see who was being interviewed. Now I am saying WOW I can feel the love from the people. I would soon be told buy one of the Essence reporting book stores that I was a placed in the Dallas Morning Newspaper. I was humble thinking she must have placed a article about The Ultimate NO NO in the paper. To my surprise when I went to purchase my Sunday’s paper I was listed on the Best Sellers list and I peeked at #4. My first reaction was to take a double look, and then I asked my husband if what I was reading was right and in fact I was listed. I was so excited and yelled out what a blessing. Its so surreal hearing that title of Best Seller connected to my name. I am so anxious to what God has in stored. I wanted to take this brief time in thanking those who purchased a copy of The Ultimate NO NO and made it what it is today. If you haven’t gotten a copy you must go out and see what all the buzz is about and find out for your self what the ultimate no no really is. I am currently writing on the sequel and it will be out in September. Click the link to see my name on the best sellers list. LINK HERE

Spread the word and refer a friend to The Ultmate NO NO and just maybe you can learn what the ultimate no no is when it comes to love!!!

Can you fall out of love?

Can you fall out of love?

 

 

To say falling out of love is over rated is just file. I do believe one can fall out of love. There’s just sometimes when you been with someone for so long and the spark tends to fade away. How can one prevent that from happening? To look at their spouse and not get a spark, to kiss them and not get a sexual tingle, to have sex with them but not feel that rush of emotions. When does one relationship go bland? Is this why some people cheat?

 

Bring it back to my main question how can you prevent your self from falling out of love. Try to help someone out by posting your experiences, and hopefully encouraging others.